A Different Kind of Discharge

My husband is due to discharge from the military about a month after my due date. He thinks that, instead of allowing the military to move our things for us, we should have them give us the money and we’ll do the moving.
We will have a month old child. As well as our 2yr old. And I won’t be able to lift anything. And will have to stop every 2 hours. Because of that whole infant thing. Oh, and to prevent blood clots.
My question is, am I allowed to shove him into traffic and use the insurance money to fly us home first class while the military moves our stuff?

Doesn’t Want a U-haul

Honey, that seems like the only logical reaction. Inform him (not politely) that he will be doing ALL of the work by himself. While YOU stand over him and SUPERVISE HIS EVERY MOTION. With lots of criticism. And fragile things that have to be wrapped in newspaper. And then tell him that all that effort supervising will tire you HUGELY and you will need several days afterwards for him to watch the child alone while you rest up. And this means no sex while you're resting. And probably afterward.

It's amazing how a little perspective can persuade them.

Um.  Yes.  I am quite certain that would be a justifiable use of the money.

REALLY?  He REALLY thinks that the two of you are going to do this yourselves?  I am thinking this is the time to pull the trump card and say "Baby.  I realize you've been getting shot at while playing war and whatever but until you've pissed a very large watermelon this just is not your call."

And then before you shove him in the traffic, make him buy you something that sparkles.  Because DAMN.  You've earned it.

Now a new MOM!!!! She can't POSSIBLY deal with anyone else's problems right now with her brand new sleep-draining, shitty-pantsed, constantly ravenous little angel, CAN SHE NOW? Check up on all the wonderful baby news here. Because you know, bitches love babies.

Comments

[Queenie]

She should also totally remind him that the money the military gives you? Is a REIMBURSEMENT. That means that you HAVE TO PAY FIRST. And the money usually takes a while to get back to you. It's like they take the money and just leave it on a street corner somewhere, leaving it to hitchhike back to you wherever you are and it takes like months and months.

[Megan]

Oh, wow. I'm moving myself, and I am dreading how terrible it will be - and the Spouse and I don't even have kids!

[Leesuh]

Good Gawd woman...do everything you have to make sure the military moves you. I had a 18 mo old and 1 month old when we moved from Japan to England. Even with the military doing it, I lost my sanity completely. You couldn't pay me enough to relive that hell again.

[Jacq]

I'd say, have the military move you. That's the best thing you can do. Because being out of the military life these last ten years, I've realized how difficult it was at first in 'the real world,' especially when it came to moving. Just wait until you're adjusting to life outside the military. That's difficult enough, but at least you'll experience the real world once again, not the sheltered one you left.

Best wishes with your new baby!!!! Even more reason to have the military move you guys, so hubby isn't having to do it all.

[justdawn]

Since we keep getting stationed overseas...we haven't been faced with the possibility of moving our own stuff...but I can tell you FOR CERTAIN that I will NEVER AGAIN pack up and move my own stuff EVER AGAIN. For ANY reason. EVER.

What is he thinking?!?!?

Good luck!

[Psychobabble]

UPDATE:
The military is going to move us, dh has decided that htis is an excellent idea, and somehow thinks he made that decision himself?
Whatever, at least I got my way, lol

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